The thing that I noticed the most about this book was the harsh emotions. Love or hate, rarely anything in between. Most of the love in the novel seems to be directed at Mrs.Ramsey even after she has died, while the hate directed at Mr. Tansley and Mr. Ramsey. Throughout the book everyone wants to please Mrs. Ramsey because they love her so much. Minta and Paul get married, even though to me it seems like they only do so because Mrs. Ramsey wants it to happen.Lilly wants to make sure that she represents everything properly in her painting to please Mrs. Ramsey. Mrs. Ramsey on the other hand is trying to make everyone happy. She does her best to keep up James' hopes about going to the lighthouse despite what Mr. Ramsey and Mr. Tansley say. She puts Paul and Minta together because she believes it is what is best for them. She also plots to get Lilly and Mr. Banks together, also for their own good. It seems that the only person who doesn't love Mrs. Ramsey is Mr. Ramsey. He never confesses his love of her to anyone, even himself. He is more concerned about his philosophy work to feel anything about anyone around him.